Please don't spank your kitten
I have a "rescue" cat that came to me as a starving kitten. Because of him we can't leave any food out on the counter or otherwise. I'll never forget the time he destroyed a loaf of bread sitting on the counter LOL
Will you be keeping this kitten? If not, a good adult home would be great for him. He could quite possibly be viewing your young daughter as a littermate and just want to feed with her as strange as that sounds. The only thing I could suggest at this point is either feed your daughter at the table or lock kitty in the bathroom during lunchtime. You could also try taking away the kittens food in the morning and then feed them both at the same time so he is distracted with his food while your daughter is eating. Good luck!
Caretaker of 2 dobermans,, 1 schnauzer, 5 cats, 3 goats, 1 parrot, 1 bearded dragon lizard, 11 chinchillas.
Rest in peace, Cricket, Casey, Bella, Yank, Chloe and Bones.