Hi there BJB,
I'm a newbie here and after reading your post my hear really went out to you.
I had a
syrian hamster named Hermes. One day I noticed that he had a lump inside his ear and that his leg was swollen, put it down to him hurting himself whilst cleaning. Then one night I got him out of his cage for a run around and notice what could only be described as an open wound at the top of his back leg on his tummy.
I took him to the vets the next day (Thursday) and he told me it was a tumour. Naturally I was really upset, burst into tears and asked what could be done. The vet advised that they could operate but could not guarantee anything. He gave him a vitamin injection in the meantime and left me to consider my options.
I was away over that weekend Friday - Sunday and when I got back he had developed 2 more 'lumps' one was a swelling right next to his eye and the other was the same as the other one. I was devastated. I had a really hard decision to make.
Hermes wasn't himself and kept trying to run away from me and hide. I agonised over my decision and the next morning took him to the vets and asked that they put him to sleep. That might seem harsh but he was so tiny and the vet told me the anaesthetic would probably kill him anyway. I saw the same vet and when I told him what had developed over the weekend he was shocked and horrifed that they had come up so quickly.
I would take hammy to the vets and ignore hubby. Animals have feelings too and need love like we do. Hope all goes well!