I am fed up...this might get long,so I apologize in advance.
I adopted Bam back in November of 2008.I was lied to.The woman who gave him to me told me he was a very sweet and loving cat.She didn't want me to meet him before bringing him to me (a red flag) and said she had to give him a home right away or he would be euthanized.I didn't think anything of it at the time,because from all the pictures I was sent he looked healthy and at the time I had no cats and was looking everywhere for a cat...so when she said she could drop him off the next day,I said yes!
Well for a week Bam would hiss and lunge at me and not let me near him.But I assumed this was normal since he was brought to a new home and enviroment.Within a week,he was slowly coming to me and finally let me pet him.However he continued biting me and hissing and growling at me for no reason,but sometimes let me pet him.
He growls at my 5 yr old daughter and do not go near her (fortunatly).I foster dogs and he hates these dogs (even though the woman who dumped him on me...I am sorry,but that is what she done,said he lived with another dog)and will hide under the couch almost 24/7,only coming out when I am in bed or he is sure nobody else is around and he has bit one of my good friends.As well as always biting me.It is getting riduculous...he has not changed since I got him in 2008.
Bam is fixed,was vet checked and seems very healthy...so this behaviour must have something to do with his history.I do not know what happened in his past,but he don't trust anyone.
In May or around there he accidentally got out when I had one of the windows open,he managed to squeeze through and was out the whole time.I rarely seen him.Well about 3-4 days ago (months after he has been out) I managed to catch him and bring him back inside.
That seemed a bad move! He hates my girls,was growling at my daughter and me and this morning he lunged at me as I walked by and he spit at me and attacked my foot (fortunatly I had shoes on).I also found poop on the stove! I was not too pleased...I know it was him,because overnight the girls were spent in a room,so Bam wouldn't hurt them while I was sleeping.It is very obvious that Bam is happier outside.
I am sooo fed up! If the woman didn't lie to me in the first place,I would not be in this situation! One of my friends suggested I give him to a farm,as he might do better as a barn cat.He does seem happier when outside,but living in a city...this is not a good idea.I do not want to look like I am giving up on him,but this is ridiculous...he obviously needs to go to a no cat,no dog and no kid home and with preferably one person who is patient...but it is hard to find a good,understanding home!
So what do I do!?