I'm pretty sure she is a Chilean Rose Hair, I found quite a few photos of them that look just like Rosey, makes the name seem even more corney though! Lol.
And I'm not sure if you're suposed to hold them or not, but I've never really had a problem with one. Rosey has calmed down today and let me take her out a few different times, she even posed for some photos! ^_^
But then again I've always been the type to turn any animal into a cuddler! Lol!
But I thought about another question. The person I got her from has had her in a two gallon pet carrier since he got her, she has her food, water, things to hide in and everything, but the tarantulas I've had before liked to dig a few different burrows and stuff around thier cage, and this one doesn't really have room to do that. I've got a five gallon aquarium I can put her in after I get a new lid for it, my rat did quite a job on the lid I have, so I was wondering if I should try to hurry up and get a new lid so I can put her in the bigger aquarium, if it's not that big of a deal and I can take my time or if I should just leave her where she is since she's been in there for at least a year or so now?