Thank you very much for your advice..much appreciated.
I am sorry i didnt realise i posted so confusingly!
The big doe who was over amourous with my little oscar was awaiting to be spayed and vaccinated before she could be sent home....a couple have already reserved her!
I came home with the first doe he met and then met again an hour later..she has been vaccinated and spayed almost 3 weeks ago.
She had been in with her brother and somehow the rescue let him go seperatley after neutering him..although he was suspected of being sterile.or she was.
Shes fallen in love with oscar now..shes always trying to cuddle him or is just indifferent to him and washes in his prescence..
He on the other hand is now shunning her totally and indeed nipping her..pulling out a huge clump of fur yesterday.
You are right i think its stress but he was sooo happy with her and wouldnt let her sleep! Now its reversed..and hes very down..and his eyes are streaming again..i am taking him down the vets at ten past four today..so we will see.
Putting her in a different room isnt an option unless she comes upstairs into a bedroom...but if its only temporary then i guess it wont hurt.
Shes got herself using a tray within 24 hrs of getting her..and shes almost 2..
i dont want to put oscars nose out of joint..and if she comes into my bedroom then i know im going to get so attached and wont leave her..she reminds me of my beloved cat who i lost in november..shes so shy and demure and curious.
I have only ever taken one animal back to a shelter..years ago..a cat as the family who gave her up had a son who badly abused her..my youngest daughter was the same age and the cat attacked her even as she slept..she was never allowed to be in the same room..which upset her as shed had pets and was really good with them. Poor moggy had to be rehomed in a childesss situation.
i dont ever want to feel that sense of failure ever again
I am epileptic so dont drive..but my 21 yr old daughter put the cat carrier with them in on her lap on her electric wheelchair and went round for about 15 mins.
I have also been told to put them near or on the washing machine at spin or hoover round them..i think thatd kill him..he hates the noise but then again..it might work!
I will keep you posted.