Ok, well I didn't want to take over SoapAddict's thread about Cookie, so since we are were talking about spaying/neutering small dogs, here are my experiences!
I think different vets vary on when they want to spay and neuter. One vet told me as soon as 4 months old, they could be fixed. And like Jodi, I have heard 6 months is the ideal. Kahlua was neutered at 1 year, he's 8 lbs. The only thing he ever did was start to lift his leg in the house and then I knew it was time. LOL. That went away after he was fixed. Dachshunds, I have heard, and from Kahlua's stand point take it very hard, poor guys. He was moping for the next few days. Kahlua was depressed and started peeing in my house for no reason. I ran him back to the vet a few days later, everything checked out fine, no complications and no urinary tract issues. She said "Well, quite frankly, I think he is depressed over all this" So, I got a weeks worth of doggie prozac, so to speak, and after that, all was fine!
Like I said earlier, Jasmine couldn't be fixed right away, since they were checking for kidney issues, and didn't want to put her under anesthetic. After all checked out ok, and thankfully, nothing was wrong with her kidneys, she was spayed at about 9 months, weighing about 6 lbs. She was groggy when she got home, but that night perked up and the next day was better and eating, she was fine. The vet did such a good job, there is practically no scar.
With Penny, she was fixed about 7 months of age, at about 11 pounds. I was upset b/c I had taken her to another vet to get fixed, the one she had first seen when I got her, and I liked him. Well, we aren't going back. I don't know about you guys, but in your cases, haven't you been able to pick your pets up at the end of the day and take them home??
The night before surgery, I had a message confirming Penny's spay and boarding. I thought "What on earth? Boarding" When I dropped her off, they said, "Yes, thats generally what happens, they will stay overnight and you can pick her up in the morning." I said, "I have had 2 dogs fixed and 1 cat fixed and they all came home with me that very day" So, basically, they just wanted to charge me a boarding fee, is what it boiled down to! I went back and 5 and said "Look, I want to take my dog home, now!" The nurse came out all like "Well, the Dr said it was fine (ya since I was there complaining) but she's still groggy, and won't be herself tonight.", almost like I didn't know what I was doing and couldn't take care of her!
I repeated my earlier phrase about how I have had 2 dogs and 1 cat fixed, I know how to take care of my animals. And who was going to be there with her when the place closed? I took her home and she was groggy until the anesthetic wore off and was fine, and slept with us all cozy in our bed. So I don't know what that was all about. She recovered well but there is a scar on her.
It all depends on where you go, some give you pain meds to take home, others, it's included in their anesthetic/shot pre-surgery. Cats must be very different from dogs, b/c I brought Smokie home, and it was like nothing even happened, wide awake and running around (Ya, let me try to keep my cat calm and no running around!