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when i was little i had seizures,and i always took medicine until i was 16yrs.old. but ive always was a woory wort. about anything and everything.so ive been on medicine for about 13 years. so now i have things under control. i have extreme depression, i believe it has alot to do when i was little and i had alot of seizures. when you feel one coming on get a lunch bag and take slow breaths. then go outside get some fresh air, go to your neighbors house or call a friend. i had a couple of good scares couple of years ago. i thought i was dying. my husband drove me to the hospital, and you know i couldnt even tell him that i love him. i thought that was it. but the doctor said i was hyperventilating. so he gave me a lunch bag to breath in, so in about 30 mintintes i slowly came around. it wiped me out for a week. so if hope i help you out a little. feel free to write me anytime.:talk:
 

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the past week i have been doing suprisingly well. i have started back walking and joggin. i think it helps alot. i also have just been trying to eat right and drink water. and i went to a spa a few days ago and got a message, peticure, and a faical (sp)
i loved it!
i have been taking more time to relax lately and soak my feet and just watch gilmore girls
 

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My husband was in a meeting with a recruiter. The two of them had been in contact off and on for over a year. In his business he always works through recruiters to find his next contract. Anyway she asked him when we were going to start having kids. When he told her we really had no plans on children she actually asked him why he got married. He replied because he loved me. I always thought that you got married b/c you loved the person you were marrying. I find this "marry to have kids" very amusing since plenty of people have kids and are not married and never will get married. So why the reverse pressure? Jewels its good that your parents don't pressure you. My mother still says something every now and again. My sister was saying things sometimes as well but I recently explained to her how happy I am with my life and that kids are not for everyone. My dad would be so happy if I gave him a grandchild (I am still daddy's little girl) but he does not pressure me. It's funny he is the one that I would love to have a baby for. But he is happy with his furry grandchildren. He just got back from a trip to Italy and he brought back St Francis medals for all of them! I think my in laws have given up. Or they are at least waiting until my nephews are a little older. The nephews are a bit of a handful so they keep them pretty busy.
People do say to me that time is running out for me to have kids - but in this day and age I don't feel that way. I actually go to a GYN that is a fertility specialist. I began going to them b/c the office is in the same parking lot as where I work. I can walk out the back door and be in thier front door in a minute. I see all these babies they helped make. If I decide at 40 I want one I don't see why they can't help me. Besides I ALWAYS had wanted to adopt. So there is always that option as well. I doubt I will change my mind though.
Scooterdog - the doctor called it hyperventilating? not a panic attack? does anyone know what the differenece is? panic attacks can really make you think you are dying - I had only had one full out panic attack in high school - it was the most horrible thing ever! I really thought I was going to die. I am lucky though I have learned to control that. I also don't think mine was ever as bad as most peoples.
ratty ratkins - I think you have found one of the secrets - make time for yourself. Many women are so busy taking care of others they completely forget themselves - that is why I feel that aniexty and depression really plague women. Plus when we start feeling that way we don't address it b/c we have too many other things to do. So good for you! You deserve pampering! We all do!
 

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I would actually consider adopting before I'd have a kid myself... but I still keep in mind little things that chase any considerations away. I'm one of those people who rarely get sick, but I get crippling migranes, usually twice a month and sometimes three, that knock me out for at least a half day. I can usually make it through the work day, but once I get home I can barely walk. I lock myself up in my bedroom, lights out, with a small fountain to block any other noises until the next morning. I don't even eat anything (not that I could keep it down anyway). I couldn't imagine having a child and these headaches. They are mainly stress induced and I haven't found a medicine yet that helps them. All I can do is lay down. If I had a baby then I wouldn't be able to just ignore it like anything else. My buns are fine without me for a night, but a baby would need me constantly. Plus, my husband wouldn't be home to help since he works 2nd shift. I don't know how people do it. And lets not even look at the financial side.

My husband gets home at 10pm, and we eat dinner and watch TV together. I get home usually around 6pm, so those 4 hours are "me" time. I like my husband, but I enjoy my alone time too. I'll play with my buns, watch TV (I like Gilmore Girls, too, by the way!), and eat a snack and sit. If I'm in the mood I'll even wash some clothes and dishes, but for the most part I just sit and reflect. Everyone needs time to wind down. A spa sounds really nice about now - being the middle of the day, the week, and the month... it would be nice. :bubbles:
 

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I like the idea of adopting. Maybe that is why I love my furkids so much. It doesn't matter to me if the DNA is mine. The caring and nuturing is what matters the most. But adoption can be very expensive.
Migraines- oh that is awful! I only get allergy related headaches and that is bad enough for me. I have an occasional day where I am so bad that I cannot stand that light but that is usually only once in the spring and once in the fall. More than that is too much for me.
My husband and I work pretty much the same hours. But he wouldn't be helpful. I know that already. I accept it. I am glad he was honest about it. I know a guy that pressured his wife into starting a family and he does nothing! I think now that they have two he may be helping a little but not enough if you ask me!
I only have about an hour and a half of me time before Jay gets home. I love that time though! His last job he worked from home - I never had a moment without him. Oh that was fun! He doesn't really go anywhere. I would encourage him to go golfing or have a cigar around the corner with our brother in law. Just to get a few minutes to myself.
 

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Wow I was suprised about how many people responded to this and how big of an answer they gave WOW

I dont know if i have anxiety attacks. Sometime in some situations i have a hard time breathing. It seems like my lungs are not big enough to take all the air I want. It really sucks when it happens cause it seems like you are trying to breath deeper but it doesn't go deep enough!!??!! I've tried the bag etc... Doesn't work. The worst part that makes me mad is that it's all in your mind and you have to learn how to control it.

Sometime i start paranoing or panicking and I can just control it. But the part when i have a hard time breathing, I never was able to control that :(

Jewels-Have you ever tried a punching bag??? Im not being sarcastic (sometime people take the things i say the wrong way, well i guess it's just me saying it the wrong way)

If i had the room i would get one. It would probably help.
 

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MeggieQC - actually I think that it's not all in your mind. I really think that it's caused by some kind of inbalance. I only think that people who suffer from it mildly can really control it themselves. I believe that whatever stress triggers to happen in your body and the chemicals it releases is what causes the panic attacks. The controlling is more so that your body doesn't jump to that reaction and release those nasty chemicals to begin with.
But don't tell Tom Cruise that I said that!
 

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meg - i don't take it as an insult... i actually have a small one in the garage! :D i've incorporated a bit of boxing into my workout routine (when i have a workout routine :wag: )

i'm a laid back person for the most part, but once you get me excited (happy, mad, or sad), it's hard for me to calm down

i understand what you mean by a bag not working for you, i can smush my face into a pillow all i want, but i'm not calming down until my body's ready to calm down

don't get me started on Tom Cruise.....:box:
 

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Figuring out the issue and rationalizing is helpful but sometimes difficult when you have anxiety issues... find someone to do it for you. A best friend or significant other. Jorge provides me with logical and comforting explanations for things. Someone who can give you a nice hug is helpful too I find...

I try to live by the philosophy that once something is done, you can't change it. No use worrying over what you can't change. If you are worrying over teh consequences, well you can't really change them until they know thme. wait until you know what they are and try to create a dealing plan. Again, this is the rationalizing. its comforting to have a plan to deal with an issue. At least for me this things work out pretty well...
 

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I suffer from anxiety, but I have few panic attacks. Most of my anxiety is social anxiety.

My fiance suffers from frequent panic attacks. Especially when we go out to eat. He was on Effexor for awhile, which was helping, but went off the meds about 2 years ago because he no longer has health insurance (when was covered under his father, but then left college). Really the only thing he does is tells himself that it's just a panic attack, there is nothing wrong with his heart/etc. He finds driving distracting (in a good way) and relaxing, so we'll go for drive in an area that doesn't have much traffic, or he'll try and immerse himself in a video game or computer game to try and distract himself. For him, thinking about it and doing nothing makes it worse, so he just does anything he can to try and find something to do so he does not focus on the panic attack.
 

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I suffer from Fibromyalgia which have a multitude of symptoms, and anxiety is one of them

Widespread Pain
Morning Stiffness
Fatigue
Nausea
Sleep Disorders
Urinary and Pelvic Problems
Dizziness
Chronic Headaches
Cold Symptoms
Temperomandibular Joint
Dysfunction Syndrome
Multiple Chemical
Sensitivity Syndromes
"Fibrofog": Cognitive or Memory Impairment
Skin Complaints
Chest Symptoms
Anxiety
Depression
Dysmenorrhea
Aggravating Factors
Myofascial Pain
Syndrome
Muscle Twitches
and Weakness
Memory Loss: Is it Real?
Weather Changes

Its no fun, I can tell you :p
 

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have you tried aromatherapy? A lot of people scoff at it, but I've found that blending certain oils and either massaging with them, inhaling them (via a burner) or soaking in a nice bath with them, or even having them impregnated on a small wheatgerm cushion to keep to hand is a great help. I don't suffer anxiety that I know of, but sometimes I have panic attacks. My 7 year old daughter suffers anxiety and a few other emotional problems thanks to her Father (who I can say gladly that we no longer see)...

I had a relaxation therapy tape when my Aunt dropped dead (sounds harsh, because it was at the time, she was only 34, I was really bad).. and that helped a great deal, I listened to it that often, I know the words 14 years or so later off by heart.
 

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Sorry to re-bring this up but I found it while browsing.
I've got them, had them since I was little and the sad thing is they eventually led me to self-destructive behavior :(.
Its **** for anyone going through it and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. I hope that everyones doing okay, though.
-hugs to all-
 

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I'm on medications for anxietey and depression. Lots of them lol. I have a cocktail cupboard. Therapy, it only works if you want it to. It only works when you can understand and use the tools they give. It can be very very hard to grasp some of the things they say. I have attacks daily, where i feel sick to my stomach and like i'll bust out both ends. Then i see sparklers, and then (if i really don't calm down) i faint. In highschool i coudln't do anything in front of the class, barely groupwork. The best thing i've ever found to work, is to have someone you can turn to whenever you feel an attack coming, or just feel lousy. It can be a friend, family member, bf/gf whatever. Pets work, yes, but only for comfort. you need human ears to feel gratified that someone understands, to have someone sit, hug, smile, listen, give you kleenex, give advice, whatever. pet's are therapeutic to a degree, but they're no human, sorry. my pets helped me keep up with daily living functions, but they've never helped with how to be a human, how to act like a person. they don't help you with social skills, they just love you. you need someone to hold you and tell you it will be okay, even when you really believe it won't be. because, iv'e learned to accept that no matter how sur eof things i am, when i'm having an attack i'm not thinking straight, i might as well be drunk. i need a person there to tell me i might be over reacting, or that it's okay to feel that way. i hope this helps. feel free to pick my brain.
 

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Yeah, I've been going through SI since I was around 9. Because I felt since I didnt have my dad to hit me anymore, I had to do something to myself.
I'm on meds for anxiety, depression and therapy (though currently in between therapists because the last one wasnt very good) for SI and my eating problems.
Blah, its a long, lonely road.
 

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yeah i find i feel very lonely even when i have company. i don't really know why. i'm logical, so i argue with myself about how i have to reason to feel the way i do. when i was 15 i started physically hurting myself for a distraction. i still get cravings but i just find something to do. it's hard, i can't believe i actually crave the pain, but it's so much easier to handle than emotional pain. i JUST started seeing my first psychiatrist (i've only ever been to psychologists) and after one session she started dumping pills on me. now, i'm open to ideas since i'm clearly not able to help myself, but i definitley refuse to take pills forever. i know i need the help right now, so i'm taking it. sleep is big for me, because i sleep like garbage. i could sleep for 5 or 15 hours, it all feels the same: like i never slept. it's so frustrating. all i can remember is being like this forever. she's thinking i might have ADD since my mother drank while pregnant with me. nice to know that now that i've failed 2 years of university eh? i refuse to believe her, but she could be right. we're still getting to know each other, but she's definitley getting an accurate idea of me. i try to induce anxietey before going to see her (like i have to try hard i'm afraid i'm agrophobic) so she really gets how i feel a good half the time. the other half the time i'm queit and lethargic. it is a tough long road, may be lonely, but you're certainly not alone.
 

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Its good that you're seeing someone though, thats always the best thing to do =].
I know, I dont want to be on pills forever either but I figure whatever will help me at the moment since I cant help myself either (I still crave SI sometimes as well).
 
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