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Usually, I’ll start by asking my daughter, Paris, nicely and gently, “Honey, please get dressed.&#8221,moncler pas cher;
She ignores me and instead dumps out the basket of barrettes looking for the pink polka-dot one.
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I’ll nudge Paris with more reminders, my tone gradually changing to a mean, frustrated one. She continues to ignore me and that’s when I start to scream, “Get dressed! How many times do I have to ask you? We’re going to be late!”
Mornings when we have to rush out the door are a nightmare. I always nag my children and they typically cry, stomp, and scream, and sometimes Paris even throws in a nasty, “I hate you Mommy!” Or my personal favorite: “You&#8217,Moncler Outlet Online;re the worst Mommy ever!”
These are the sorts of mornings we are experiencing this summer because Paris’s camp starts at 9 a.m. Can you imagine if we had to get somewhere by, say, 8 a.m.? Well, guess what? My daughter’s kindergarten starts at 7:50 a, All summer, I pushed this fact in the back of my mind but this week I decided to tackle our morning routine. I want to stop nagging and I want my children to be cheerful as they walk out the door.
Is this possible? Yes, according to Moschel Kadokura,Doudoune Moncler Femme, an expert on family routines who I called on for help. Living in Cupertino, Kadokura is a parent herself. She has a son who is going into the firth grade as well as triplets in college–they’re at MIT,air jordan femme, UC San Diego, and Boston University, a lineup that’s worth bragging about. As I told Kadokura about our hellish mornings she could relate.
“Morning time was so stressful for us,” Kadokura says. &#8220,Moncler Outlet Online;After a month into school, I realized that I was yelling at my kids all morning long. One day, I really lost it. I started nagging my kids in front of other parents at school. That’s when you know that you’ve lost it–when you can’t put on a show in front of other people. I was following my son around screaming at him because he forgot his lunch box and the teacher looked at me like, ‘Lady, you’ve lost it!’ I went home and cried. That was the day that I realized I needed to make a change.”
Kadokura decided that she wanted her children to get ready in the morning themselves without her nagging them. She developed a routine chart with tasks (brushing teeth, getting dressed, doing chores) for her kids to follow in the morning. This eventually evolved into a prototype and then a product called , which is basically a giant timer that helps a child stay on task and follow a routine. It worked amazingly well and her triplets raced each other in the morning to see who could brush their teeth, get dressed, and make their beds first. If they finished early, they were rewarded with a few minutes of Sesame Street.
Kadokura’s product appealed to me because my daughter is naturally organized and likes routine, while I&#8217,air jordan;m disorganized, not to mention desperate for help. I was relieved to see Kadokura, when she arrived at my house to help me set up a morning routine for my daughter.
“You need to identify the transition periods throughout the day,” Kadokura says. “These are usually the stressful periods when you are nagging your children.”
The three primary transitions for families are 1) morning when kids are going from home to school 2) afternoon when kids are going from school to home, and 3) bed time when kids are going from awake time to bed. It’s during these transitions when kids need established routines.
To create a routine, the parent and child come up with a list of tasks that the child must complete. They assign an amount of time to each, such as two minutes for brushing teeth and 10 minutes for taking a bath. And then they put them in order. Once the routine is set, the child needs to follow it in the established order and complete each task in the assigned amount of time. Kadokura’s On Task On Time keeps track of each task and the time as stickers identify the tasks and then you stick these onto the timer.
Kindergarten-age children who are eager for independence do well with a routine but Kadokura says high school kids use her product. Also, it’s a great approach for focused, goal-oriented, head-strong kids.
A morning routine where a child makes his own lunch and gets himself dressed is utter bliss for a parent but there&#8217,Moncler;s an even more compelling reason to set up something like this.
Kadokura believes children need to learn to take care of themselves and this builds confidence and responsibility. What if a child forgets a task? Kadokura thinks you need to let the child suffer the consequences.
“One day my son forgot his saxophone and so I brought it for him to school. The next week he forgot it again, but this time I didn’t bring it to him so he had to sit through band practice without an instrument. The next week, he wrote a note to himself the night before, ‘Saxophone.’”
Kadokura left me with one of her timers and some task stickers. Paris and I are meeting tomorrow to develop her schedule. I’ll report back.

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