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I don't really punish my dogs, I usually instead encourage the behavior I want instead 
. Is there a specific issue you're having? As for the ones you mentioned...
Urinating inside: This means the dog wasn't supervised well enough, not let out often enough, or was never totally housetrained to begin with. If not any of those, it was an honest mistake. None of those reasons are the dog's fault so I would never punish. What I'd do training-wise would depend on the individual dog, the reason, etc.
Chewing on things: The house needs to be dog-proofed and the dog needs to be supervised and given more appealing things to chew on. What chews to offer depends on the dog, they all have different likes and dislikes. The most negative thing I'd do in this case would be to say "no" sternly (I so rarely say the word that my dogs know I'm serious, ha) and make sure chews were available.
Climbing on things: Make it impossible for them to climb to wherever it is. More might need to be done but it would depend on the specific issue. This is easier to prevent with dogs than cats/rabbits. I had to re-arrange furniture in my room to prevent my rabbit from getting to certain areas. He can still get on my desk and took a liking to my plant...so now the plant is elsewhere, out of reach. I never punished him or yelled.
. Is there a specific issue you're having? As for the ones you mentioned...Urinating inside: This means the dog wasn't supervised well enough, not let out often enough, or was never totally housetrained to begin with. If not any of those, it was an honest mistake. None of those reasons are the dog's fault so I would never punish. What I'd do training-wise would depend on the individual dog, the reason, etc.
Chewing on things: The house needs to be dog-proofed and the dog needs to be supervised and given more appealing things to chew on. What chews to offer depends on the dog, they all have different likes and dislikes
. The most negative thing I'd do in this case would be to say "no" sternly (I so rarely say the word that my dogs know I'm serious, ha) and make sure chews were available.Climbing on things: Make it impossible for them to climb to wherever it is. More might need to be done but it would depend on the specific issue. This is easier to prevent with dogs than cats/rabbits. I had to re-arrange furniture in my room to prevent my rabbit from getting to certain areas. He can still get on my desk and took a liking to my plant...so now the plant is elsewhere, out of reach. I never punished him or yelled.
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Humans are a totally separate species than dogs. Once the dog learns the heirarchy they'll become accustomed to the different discipline methods. When my niece was born my sister was living at home so we had 2 dogs at the time. Both dogs knew words like "get out of the way" but not in a shouty or aggressive way and Coco liked to lick Chloe's chin (dried milk and drool) but could be called off in a second.
I know Spezza came later than Aly but it could be a bit of jealousy. Coco was always a little jealous of the attention Chloe received, when she got big enough to play with him they formed a better relationship. As for peeing in the house, as Sasami mentioned it could be training (I know this is no longer an issue for you). As dogs get older they have less control over their bladder. Coco used to do his very best trying to hold it in, but going downstairs he would dribble (thank goodness the home owner was replacing the carpets anyway and said it wasn't a problem). I never yelled at Coco for peeing on the floor, or vomiting, or even somehow moving the 100lb kennel and getting on the bed to poop while we were out.
Letting the dog know you understand him and can trust you in times of accidents is crucial.
As for human babies, when she starts to walk and crawl the dog should know boundaries but also know it's okay to go help her and sniff her. Babies who grow up with animals turn into the best kids !!! (ex: Chloe was scratched by my demon cat over the holidays and after crying briefly she and my mom talked about why he "didn't mean it" and she went right back to playing with him.. Now she's asking Lisa for a "puff ball kitten"!!)
Hm, The cat we had when Chloe was born was a supremely calm and tolerant tom cat. When he was indoors laying down, he was a really good tool for Chloe when she was learning to sit up.. He let her pull herself up on his fur, in fact he purred while she did this!
Illusion the cat came later but Coco was trained by then to keep Illusion out of trouble before he became a problem with Chloe. So I have no offerings there for bad behaviors and discipline .
If we decide to have kids I should hope and pray that Oliver is calmed down, he is curently not a child friendly cat!
I know Spezza came later than Aly but it could be a bit of jealousy. Coco was always a little jealous of the attention Chloe received, when she got big enough to play with him they formed a better relationship. As for peeing in the house, as Sasami mentioned it could be training (I know this is no longer an issue for you). As dogs get older they have less control over their bladder. Coco used to do his very best trying to hold it in, but going downstairs he would dribble (thank goodness the home owner was replacing the carpets anyway and said it wasn't a problem). I never yelled at Coco for peeing on the floor, or vomiting, or even somehow moving the 100lb kennel and getting on the bed to poop while we were out.
Letting the dog know you understand him and can trust you in times of accidents is crucial.
As for human babies, when she starts to walk and crawl the dog should know boundaries but also know it's okay to go help her and sniff her. Babies who grow up with animals turn into the best kids
!!! (ex: Chloe was scratched by my demon cat over the holidays and after crying briefly she and my mom talked about why he "didn't mean it" and she went right back to playing with him.. Now she's asking Lisa for a "puff ball kitten"!!) Hm, The cat we had when Chloe was born was a supremely calm and tolerant tom cat. When he was indoors laying down, he was a really good tool for Chloe when she was learning to sit up.. He let her pull herself up on his fur, in fact he purred while she did this!
Illusion the cat came later but Coco was trained by then to keep Illusion out of trouble before he became a problem with Chloe. So I have no offerings there for bad behaviors and discipline .
If we decide to have kids I should hope and pray that Oliver is calmed down, he is curently not a child friendly cat!
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I don't punish Kitsune either. He's too cute for me to yell at or anything like that. Plus he's really sensitive so even just yelling at him really really upsets him. I don't want to risk the bond I have with him by punishing him.
We practice positive reinforcement training with him.
We practice positive reinforcement training with him.
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Depends. If they know its wrong, yes.
Sometimes, just like humans, for whatever reason, someone may do something outrageous.
All of the punishments are different as well. Spyro and Luna have time outs. Loki is very sensitive and he'd have to blow up my house before I put him on time out. Just by saying "BAD" Loki will put himself on time out. Spyro is a typical hound...if he wants something, he won't hear you say no. If he doesn't hear us, he gets a smack on the butt and sent to the corner for three minutes. Luna basically gets reminders that shes not in charge.
Sometimes, just like humans, for whatever reason, someone may do something outrageous.
All of the punishments are different as well. Spyro and Luna have time outs. Loki is very sensitive and he'd have to blow up my house before I put him on time out. Just by saying "BAD" Loki will put himself on time out. Spyro is a typical hound...if he wants something, he won't hear you say no. If he doesn't hear us, he gets a smack on the butt and sent to the corner for three minutes. Luna basically gets reminders that shes not in charge.
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I have read some books about disciplining your pets., For instance, your pet pee or poo in a wrong place don't scold him instead encourage him not to do it again, you can also give him rewards everytime she does it well..
I never did use the water bottle much. As powerful as rewarding good behavior is, still something bad has to happen to stop negative behaviors. I use the ''Ah, ah,ah!'' when needed and also denying my attention.
Stepping backward works great for jumping up.
Stepping backward works great for jumping up.
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I personally just use "No" or sometimes, when I am unpleasantly surprised, "Hey!" My dogs know that means to stop what they are doing immediately. Because they understand it so well, pointing to or showing them what they did wrong (the pee puddle, the decimated shoe) and saying "No" is all they need to get the message. Classic negative punishment like hitting or rubbing their face in it just seems like it doesn't teach them anything except to be afraid of the person doing the punishing.
I fully agree with the positive reinforcement methods mentioned here. My youngest puppy learned to potty outside just from being taken out often enough. He is kenneled at night, but that is because I don't trust myself to wake up if he were needing to go out or making trouble of some kind. Having him in the kennel also gives him a routine, so he always remembers to potty outside because he doesn't get a chance in the morning to do otherwise.
I fully agree with the positive reinforcement methods mentioned here. My youngest puppy learned to potty outside just from being taken out often enough. He is kenneled at night, but that is because I don't trust myself to wake up if he were needing to go out or making trouble of some kind. Having him in the kennel also gives him a routine, so he always remembers to potty outside because he doesn't get a chance in the morning to do otherwise.
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