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It’s no secret that abuse is about control. What might be less clear is what is the abuser trying to control. Is it NOW or LATER? In other words, is the abuser set on conquering the moment or is he/she plotting for a longer vision?
Intermittent Explosive Abuser
Some abusers lose it moment-to-moment and use their fury and violence to control the moment. They want to exert their will on what is happening now,doudoune north face femme.
They tend to be flooded by their own inward implosion and their outburst aids them in releasing internal tension. These individuals will strike when life or their partner fails to serve up as they desire...what they desire, when and how they desire it. They usually do not impose a long-term agenda on their battering...as do their counterpart more sociopathic type abuser.
Sociopathic Abuser
The sociopathic abuser uses battering with a long-term agenda of controlling the ultimate destiny. For these abusers, the moment is simply a means to a larger end.
They strike to exert power over their victim to strategically create the end result of their campaign. These abusers are conniving and manipulative as they groom events to satisfy their long-range conquest.
Pit Bull Abuser
In other writings, I have elaborated on the difference between a pit bull versus a cobra batterer, as conceptualized by Drs. Jacobson and Gottman in the 90’s.
In short, pit bulls usually come from fathers who battered their mothers. They are immature, unpredictable, unrelenting and demanding of changes from their intimate partners. Many of these batterers are more likely to abuse alcohol.
They are emotionally dependent on their intimate partners, and need to dominate and control them. They are motivated by fear of abandonment, which produces jealous rage and a strong need to control their partner’s life.
When they strike, they are highly aroused,ブランドバッグ. This is what primarily distinguishes them from their cobra counterparts, as conceptualized by Drs. Jacobson and Gottman.
Their intimate partners are enraged and usually feel entrapped,Polo Ralph Lauren. Pit bulls are easier to leave, and are more dangerous after leaving in the long run.
Cobra Abusers
Cobras, on the other hand, often were abused as children by their parents. They are hedonistic, impulsive, antisocial, con artists, and they exploit and manipulate others. Cobras may use or become dependent on illegal drugs.
Their personal commitments are typically superficial,Polo Ralph Lauren. They do not fear abandonment but they will not, under any circumstances,コーチ, be controlled. Cobras severely abuse their intimate partners to insure getting what they want when they want it.
When they strike, they are internally calm, contrary to the pit bull batterer. Cobras are very frightening, yet captivating to their intimate partners,Ralph Lauren Casquette. They are harder to leave, and are more dangerous after leaving in the short run.
Abusers and Battering Goals
With respect to this short-range versus long-range vision, I trust it is clear to you that the pit bull is more of the intermittent explosive abuser striking in the moment for now. In contrast, the cobra more aptly characterizes the sociopathic long-range vision abuser. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek to understand the distinction described here as it could offer you insight into the dynamics endangering you.
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